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From: Daniel Riwo <danyrayofficial@gmail.com>
Date: Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:18:35 -0800
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The thought is parent to the deed--and that's
especially true where success and happiness are
concerned.
BY JEFF HADEN @jeff_haden
Accomplishments are based on actions, not on
thoughts--yet the thought is always father to the
deed. Achievement starts with an idea, a perspective, a
point of view, or even just an attitude. (Ideas,
perspectives, and points of view like these, for
starters.)
Here are some of the things extraordinarily successful
people say every day--and how those statements spur
them to take actions that lead to even greater success:
1. "I can't do everything today, but I can take one
small step."
You have plans. You have goals. You have ideas. Who
cares? You have nothing until you actually do
something.
Every day, we let hesitation and uncertainty stop us
from acting on our ideas. Pick one plan, one goal, or
one idea. And get started. Take one small step. (For
example, here's how to start a small business while
still keeping your full time job
.)
The first step is by far the hardest. Successive steps
are always easier.
2. "I will do what no one else is willing to do."
Often the easiest way to be different is to do the things
other people refuse to do.
So pick one thing other people won't do. It can be
simple. It can be small. It doesn't matter. Whatever it
is, do it. You'll instantly be a little different from the
rest of the pack.
Then keep going. Every day, think of one thing to do
that no one else is willing to do.
After a week, you'll be uncommon. After a month,
you'll be special. After a year, you'll be incredible, and
you definitely won't be like anyone else. (And, in the
process, you will develop remarkable determination
and willpower .)
3. "I will face a fear."
The most paralyzing fear is fear of the unknown (at
least, it is for me).
Yet nothing ever turns out to be as hard or as scary as
we think. Plus, it's incredibly exciting to overcome a
fear. You get that "I can't believe I just did that!" rush,
a thrill you may not have experienced for a long time.
Every day, do one thing a little scary, whether
physically or emotionally. (If you need a quick boost of
confidence to get you going, here are some simple
tricks that really work .) Trust that you will figure out
how to overcome any problems that arise.
Because you will.
4. "I will appreciate someone unappreciated."
Some jobs require more effort than skill. Delivering
packages, bagging groceries, checking out customers
-- the tasks themselves are relatively easy. The
difference is in the effort.
So do more than say a reflexive "thanks" to someone
who does a thankless job. Smile. Make eye contact.
Exchange a kind word.
All around you are people who work hard with little or
no recognition. Vow to be the person who recognizes at
least one of them every day.
Not only will you give respect, you'll earn the best kind
of respect -- the respect that comes from making a
difference, however fleeting, in another person's life.
5. "I will listen 10 times more than I speak."
I used to talk a lot. I thought I was insightful and
clever and witty and, well, I thought I was a real hoot.
Occasionally, very occasionally, I might even have been
one of those things.
Most of the time I was not.
Genuinely confident people (here's how to tell if you're
one of them ) don't feel the need to talk. While I hate
when it happens, I still sometimes realize I'm not
talking because the other person is interested in what I
have to say but because I'm interested in what I have
to say. (Ick.)
Never speak just to please yourself. When you do, you
please no one.
6. "I will not care what other people think."
Most of the time, we should worry about what other
people think--but not if it stands in the way of living
the lives we really want to live.
If you really want to start a business -- which you can
do in just a few hours , mind you -- but you're worried
that people might say you're crazy, do it anyway. Pick
one thing you haven't tried because you're concerned
about what other people would think or say and just
go do it.
It's your life. Live it your way.
7. "I will answer the question that wasn't asked."
Sometimes people are hesitant. Sometimes they're
insecure. Sometimes they're shy. Whatever the reason,
sometimes people will ask a different question than the
one they really want you to answer.
One employee might ask whether you think he should
take a few college courses. What he really wants to
know is whether you see him as able to grow in your
organization; he hopes you'll say you do and he hopes
you'll share the reasons why.
Your husband might ask if you thought the woman at
the party was flirting with him. What he really wants to
know is if you still think he's flirt-worthy and
attractive; he hopes you'll say you do, and he'll love
when you share the reasons why.
Behind many questions is an unasked question.
Pay attention so you can answer that question too --
because that is the answer the other person doesn't
just want but needs.
8. "I will be OK with less than perfect."
Yes, you only get one chance to make a first
impression. Yes, perfection is the only acceptable
outcome. Unfortunately, no product or service is ever
perfect, and no project or initiative is perfectly planned.
In fact, the quest for perfection can often be your
worst enemy.
Work hard, do great work, do your best, and let it go.
Your customers and colleagues will tell you what
needs to be improved, and that means you'll get to
make improvements that actually matter to people.
You can't accomplish anything until you let go. Do
your best, let go, and then trust that you'll work hard
to overcome any shortcomings.
9. "I will try to do better."
We've all screwed up. We all have things we could have
done better. Words. Actions. Omissions. Failing to step
up, step in, or be supportive.
Successful people don't expect to be perfect, but they
do think they can always be better.
So think back on yesterday. Think about what went
well. Then think about what didn't go as well as it
could have and take ownership. Take responsibility.
And promise yourself that today you will do a lot
better.
10. "The one thing I can always do is outwork them."
Like Jimmy Spithill, skipper of America's Cup-winning
Oracle Team USA, said, "Rarely have I seen a situation
where doing less than the other guy is a good
strategy."
You may not be as experienced, as well funded, as well
connected, as talented, but you can always outthink,
out hustle, and outwork everyone else. The extra mile
is a vast, unpopulated wasteland--everyone talks
about the extra mile, but few people go there.
Even when everything else seems stacked against you,
effort and persistence can still be your competitive
advantages--and they may be the only advantages
you truly need.
11. "I will stop and smell my roses."
You have big plans and big goals. And you're never
satisfied, because satisfaction breeds complacency.
Unfortunately, most of the time that means you're
unhappy, because you think more about what you
have not achieved, have not done, and do not have.
(Of course, the key is to instead do things that make
you happy more often .)
Take a moment and think about what you do have,
both professionally and especially personally.
At this moment, you have more than you once could
ever dream possible.
Sure, always strive for more, but always take a moment
to realize that all the things you have, especially your
relationships, are more important than anything you
hope to have.
Unlike a want, what you have isn't a hope, a wish, or a
dream. What you already have is real.
And it's awesome. And it's yours.
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